Rita’s Column

Need to create a new game in your life?

Sometimes, life’s changes and challenges can but tough, disappointing and confusing. They may come on so quickly we wonder “what happened” and “how will I ever manage beyond this?” They can also open the door to so many new and wonderful possibilities. Realize, rebuild and raise up your inner strength and create a beautiful new picture out of the puzzle pieces of life. Explore ways to thrive and excel.

YOU are ultimately responsible for your own legacy. Others can help you or hurt you but they cannot live your life for you. To make the rest of your life the best of your life, sit down and assess:

• Do I seek out those who are positive, ambitious and high quality? Do I “allow” those who tend to be negative, lazy and self-willed try to keep me from creating a new version of myself?

• Do friends and family encourage or discourage me? You can pray for new friends just as I did and God will be faithful to bring them to you. Remember, you deserve the best! Never allow yourself to become a servant of what you fear from here on out, whether competing for a new career, moving to a new city, or even living alone for the first time!

Researchers believe that if you hold on to negative feelings, sad emotions or depressing memories, it is possible they could reshape your body’s cells to the point where your thoughts of the past have a negative effect on your mental and physical health. Defy the aging process with food and exercises that nourish your mind and body and keep you strong and active. Ask yourself these questions and answer honestly:

Do my past life experiences:
1) serve any good or constructive purpose?
2) help me move forward or keep me in the pit?
3) work in my favor or against me in any way?

If you get thoughts telling you it is time to change or remove those negative influences, tell yourself: “This emotion/feeling/habit does not help me get out–or stay out–of the box. I am letting it go and focusing on my next constructive step. That step could be finding a class or mentor who can help you with a new job skill, finding a support group to help you think more positively and gain new supportive friends, check out new ways to fix your hair and put on makeup, for instance. You get the idea.

HOW you “choose” to view your circumstances will determine whether you arrive at the finish line you really want. You have the opportunity to write the next chapter of your life. Embrace it with open arms even if the fear of the unknown tempts you to push it away.

When self-pity creeps in, kick it out! Immediately take action, fix yourself up, put on something colorful that makes you feel good. Get out and get going. Take a walk. Call a supportive friend, read the kind of blogs or books that pump you up or teach you a skill or behavior that shows where courage in the face of trial can take you. Just set boundaries that promote a healthy body, mind and plenty of self-respect. Don’t look back! Immediately take positive action.

This is the day for your new beginning–another exciting step towards your new life. After you have unwrapped the dreams that you previously stashed at the back of your mental closet, take one step at a time and walk through each life-altering phase. Do what it takes, in small increments, to blossom. Think about new classes, programs, friends, career opportunities, travel experiences you can take. Do something new and fun to rejuvenate your spirit. It may be a cake decorating or art class, attending a personal development program, or even learning to fix your own car!

Add to your list now.
• What do I desire to change? Relationships? Health? Finances? Career? Be detailed.
• What will it take to transform my life: Different friends? Letting go of someone or something that keeps me down? An exercise and eating plan? Courses that will equip me for my dream job?
• Who or where can I turn to for support?
• Who or what is preventing me from stepping into my new life? Are they perceived or real roadblocks? Be honest.
• If I cannot completely change a particular area of my life, what steps can I take to make it better? An example is if you are now a caregiver, can you trade services with someone who can care for your loved one a few hours per week in exchange for some of your awesome cooking, bookkeeping skills or other talent? Use this time for “you.”
• Where I am speaking in negative or defeated terms, what can I say to turn it into victory statements? Take each negative thought and literally rewrite it. You can change, “I am too old to change careers” to “I have years of valuable experience, insight and creative relationship skills that will connect me to the perfect organization for my goals.”

If you feel life has passed you by, that a new life at your age is impossible, that you are too old or don’t have enough money, education, talent, or a myriad of other thoughts and emotions, stop that thought immediately. Go back to your list and determine the next step, no matter how small it may seem at the time. Each day we must notice, replace, and change our defeating self-talk.

Gravitate towards those things that make you happy and enable you to fulfill your life’s purpose. Before long, they will overtake and replace any dull, dark areas that previously had residence in your life. Choose the life of a spunky, thriving Baby Boomer!

Let’s sing, dance and ride the roller coaster of life in high gear. You can choose to live life to the fullest. Start now, right where you are, and make a brand new ending to the story of your life!



Kicking Your Way Out of the Box!

Sometimes, the life of a “mature person” must be completely shaken, shifted and reshuffled to bring them to where they were meant to be in the first place! Some events are beyond our control that make those shifts necessary: losing a job, children moving back home, a health crisis or death of a loved one. Others open up the time and opportunities to explore new adventures. Even if you are experiencing issues that have hindered your ability to do what you love, read on and think about how you can incorporate your desires into your everyday life. 

First secret: If you have not grown up by age 40, you don’t have to! Allow yourself to rekindle your childlike faith and enthusiasm as you ride the roller coaster of life in high gear.
You? Getting Older? You Are Just Getting Started!
Could it be possible that age only counts with wine and cheese? By the time we have reached age 40+, many of us have pushed important dreams and goals deep into the back of life’s closet. Situations, obstacles and excuses may have taken up residence in our homes and our heads, replacing our dreams with the ever-changing world we call “life.” News Flash! It is never too late to pull those boxes of dreams down off the shelf, tear them open with childlike enthusiasm, and initiate your plan. Yes, our lives may have taken a different course, filled to overflowing with work and relationships that left little or no time to pursue our original goals. By the time we are 40+ (or 50, 60, 70), we may feel there are several reasons why it could be too late to get out of that all too familiar box. Some reasons may be legitimate for a season; others are based on fear or lack of self-confidence. The more time and energy we expend entertaining those reasons, the farther away we become from grasping our own brass ring.

It is Never Too Late to Grab the Brass Ring!
Several years ago, I read the story of how the term “reaching for the brass ring” originated. This phrase has always symbolized reaching for, and achieving, one’s goals. The brightly painted carousels had beautiful wooden ponies that pranced up and down on shiny brass poles to the sound of calliope music. Children excitedly stretched high with determination to grab a fist-sized metal ring from a dispenser suspended just outside of the carousel. Most of the time, they would get a black ring. How joyful they were when, every once in a while, someone would grasp a “gold” one, the brass ring! That brass ring came to symbolize adventure, passion, joy, and having the ability to achieve their biggest hopes and dreams. If an 80 year old woman can earn her Bachelor’s Degree and a 65 year old obtained her pilot’s license, let me encourage you to go in hot pursuit of your dreams too! As a Boomer (or older GenX), have you grabbed your ring yet?

What steps can be added, or changes made, to your current lifestyle to bring those dreams to fruition? Let’s assess the experiences in your life to see how they can help you kick your way out of the box and live life to the fullest:

1. What is a true heart’s desire—a meaningful and important goal—you want to accomplish in your lifetime? Answer honestly without worrying about “how” to accomplish it.

2. A positive image is a vital secret for living the vibrant Boomer (or GenX) life. What do you believe your personal and professional image is at this time? What would you like to change? Be specific: friends, job/career, home/city, personal and professional relationships that either help or hinder.
3. Up until now, how much time have you spent on yourself, your family and career? How has this impacted your ability to fulfill your desired lifestyle? How can you change it?
4. What is different now? An empty nest? Are you married/divorced/widowed? Have you obtained a higher education? Is it necessary to now be a caregiver? Have children who were gone but have returned home? Do you have more or less time and money now?
5. How can you use these experiences to build new opportunities and help others in the process? Life lessons are awesome teachers that equip you to scale new heights.

It is time to dust off those dreams so let’s get going! You can’t move forward while looking the rearview mirror! Add more roads (steps) to your life map and enjoy the ride. (Stay tuned for the following articles).


What “Color” is Your Mind?

      Our minds are amazing! They can entertain good thoughts or bad; happy thoughts or sad; loving thoughts or angry and unforgiving ones. “Out of the abundance of the heart…the mouth speaks.” Are there times when we forget that we are designing a great portion of our lives by what we are speaking forth? We magnetize what we dwell on…prosperity, successful career, heartache, the treatment from others (that one can be so rewarding or so detrimental). Is it time to change out some puzzle pieces?      

      Think of your words as pieces of a puzzle, or the colors of paint you would use in creating a beautiful picture, or of the type of decorative items you put into your home. Are they colors and items that make you feel good (yes, it can greatly affect how you feel), or are they black, white and gray, lifeless, filled with hurt and disappointment? Music also affects us. Fun, venomous, beautiful, full of life, screaming, relaxing. Words–sights–sounds definitely affect what we are creating. Think about how they make you feel.

      Even in illness or lack, we can say “NO, I am not dwelling in this state. I am determined to design, in my heart and mind, what is good, constructive and beneficial to the rest of my life!” Your Creator designed you with His heart and His mind and His abilities. It doesn’t get any better or stronger than that! Be “positively” spunky and determined to raise your thoughts where necessary, and change your world!

Taken from Creating Your Own Destiny: Power Steps for Mind-Body Renewal

The Transforming Power in Our Belief System!

          “The thoughts we entertain, the words we speak, and the things we write have much to do with how we handle the daily environment we live in. Our belief system either helps us remove hindrances and prepare our wings for flight or keep us down and defeated. Our views and opinions of ourselves (self-perception) and of the immediate world around us create the way we experience reality. We devise in our minds, and then follow through with our actions, whether we become successful or live with continuous failures, whether we have uplifting or degrading relationships, whether we have a career we enjoy or mainly work to survive. Even in the most devastating of times, we can call forth peace, new friends, new opportunities, and the necessary support to make it to the other side.

            I have lived much of my life like this even when it seemed like the walls caved in on top of me. It is still something that is critical to overcome on an almost daily basis. But focusing on the fact that we are made in the image of our Creator changes our perception, gives us hope, renews our spirit and causes our demeanor to bring forth positive changes and people. This, in turn, will influence others to hire us for a new and better position, build community and foster healthy relationships. When we replace the words we think, write and speak, science has proven that we literally change how our brain works and the kind of outcome our thoughts, words and actions bring about. That, in turn, greatly impacts our lives–for the better. In the positive way we deserve. Shift!!

Taken from Creating Your Own Destiny: Power Steps for Mind-Body Renewal

Business Social Events–Tips for Standing Out in the Crowd!

There are a myriad of helpful business  and social etiquette tips for greater confidence, engaging conversation and a winning demeanor . Here are a few techniques to keep you out in front:

At business social events, you are still under scrutiny.  Your attire should not be too casual or revealing as that impression will carry back to the office and can affect promotion opportunities. You still want to be remembered as the polished (and fun) professional, not for what you wore. Have extra clothing in the car (dressier/more casual/different accessories or shoes,etc.) to make a quick change if need be to fit in more comfortably with the crowd.

Don’t want to attend an event? Go anyway! Spend at least 30 minutes making the rounds, shaking hands and being seen by as many people as possible. That way, you will show your interest in the company and the attendees in the most favorable light. Later, just slip out quietly. Be sure to discuss the event, thank the organizer, etc., the next day. They will appreciate it and you score points for being so engaged in the process.

When in a networking environment with food and drinks, avoid trying to talk to individuals while holding one in each hand. It can be awkward and messy trying to talk while juggling your hors d’oeuvres. Eat at a standing table first, then go out on the floor and concentrate on those you meet, giving a warm and confident handshake.

Always hold your glass in your left hand when mingling so the right one is dry and free to shake hands. No switching!

Have a glass of water or coffee between alcoholic drinks to maintain a sharp, professional conversation at all times. If you are socializing with upper management or clients who are not drinking alcohol, it is usually better to abstain during your conversation with them. This may sound old fashioned but it shows you are respectful of their time, preferences and totally engaged in your conversation with them.

Make it a habit to introduce yourself to at least five people you don’t know to build up your network and make new friends and associates. Always focus on them (which also helps if you’re self-conscious talking about yourself). If you want to talk with them again, ask for their card first rather than hand them yours. This is primarily “social” time, not business development time. You can then set a time to meet for more in depth conversations.

At social events, your date is also under scrutiny. Adults never want to introduce someone as “boyfriend” or “girlfriend” but rather just offer their first and last names. If it’s your spouse, provide that designation.

Help your date be more comfortable by telling them as much about the people they will meet while on your way to the event. Knowing what subjects are good and which ones are off limits makes for a more fun (and profitable) event.

Always thank the host or hostess and let them know how much you appreciate their hospitality. Handwritten thank-you’s are a nice touch for more formal parties. Even an email can show you are thinking about them and their thoughtfulness.

When attending an event at someone’s home, a small gift life a bottle of wine or box of chocolates is usually a welcome gift to show your appreciation for all of their work.

If at a sit-down meal, follow the host/hostess for when to put your napkin in your lap and begin eating.

Wait until they begin eating in case they want to ask a blessing or make a toast. It is embarrassing to begin and then put that fork down.

The lady should sit to the right of her male date/partner.

Look around to see if someone needs an item in front of you and pass them as soon as you have used them: salt and pepper, cream for coffee, etc.

If the host/hostess does not have professional help for their event, it is a very nice gesture to gather plates, glasses and other items you notice laying around. The harried host can then enjoy more time with guests and it only takes you a couple minutes of thoughtfulness.

Never plank your knife between plate and table. Set it across the edge of your dinner plate or bread & butter plate if you have one.

Your bread and butter plate is on the left! Liquids on right—solids on left.

Place your napkin on the back of your seat if you get up briefly and lay it back on your lap as soon as you return. Old order etiquette says to lay it in your chair but think about that…who wants to put it back to your mouth? 

When you are through eating, you are “finished” and never “done.” (My elderly mentor used to scold me about that and said, “Meat is done, you are finished.”)

Good manners and engaging conversation are always a hit!!! For more valuable tips, check out my book “Guide to Marketing Yourself for Success” at https://www.amazon.com/Rita-Rocker/e/B00B788DIU/ref=sr_tc_2_0?qid=1518195479&sr=1-2-ent


The Meet & Greet – You Had Me From Hello!

As we know, that first impression is made in as little as seven seconds when people are checking us out physically (demeanor, handshake appearance, our-non-verbal signals) which makes it more difficult for someone to remember our name if given immediately. They haven’t quite started “listening” yet. Before we have said a word, judgments can start forming about our own self-image, outlook on life, economic and educational levels, social position, trustworthiness and future success. Sound like a bit much? Yes. Has research proven this to be true? Yes. Sigh! Here are a few quick tips to keep the conversation going in a relationship-building manner:

At business social functions, shyness may be misunderstood as being socially unskilled so try introducing yourself to as many people as possible. Even if you really don’t want to be there, stay at least a half hour and make the rounds before leaving. This can keep you in the winner’s circle by exhibiting a team player attitude and is beneficial for your work and social relationships.

Why is it so hard to remember someone’s name? As mentioned above, during the first seven seconds we meet someone, we are checking them out visually (looking at their clothing (wow, nice, organized or oh no), hair (just get out of bed?), grooming (gardening this morning?) or a myriad of other things) before we start listening…so we aren’t really hearing them! The best way to introduce yourself, particularly in a large group of people you do not know where you have about ten seconds to stand up and sit down, is to say 1) what you do, 2) for whom, 3) then your name.  Example:  Hi. I provide rapid results programs in professional communication, image and career development with Transformation Academy. My name is Rita…Rocker!  Take a slight pause between your first and last name, adding emphasis (giving a little punch) to your last name. By then, the person should be more focused on listening to you versus giving you the visual once-over.

When shaking hands: Women usually offer their hand first but either gender is welcome to initiate the universal greeting of the handshake. Take the other person’s hand with medium pressure, palm to palm, in a vertical hold and pump 2-3 times, leaning slightly forward. If you can tell what color their eyes are when shaking hands, you have completely connected. If someone takes your hand and turns it horizontally (yes, that really happens), just keep smiling and turn it up in a vertical hold again.That keeps you on a more “psychologically” level playing field! Turning your hand horizontally is a silent signal saying they have “the upper hand” and seek to control the direction the conversation will go. Now, go out and enjoy networking. It’s a wonderful way to build new relationships! And one more thing…if you’re shy, seek out those standing alone. They will welcome you gladly.

While talking, stand approximately 18? from them in order to respect their “space.” Only hold your beverage in your left hand so the right one is free to give your impressive handshake. Find out what “they” do first. Ask for their business card first (if you want to give them yours). Find out what kind of connections they are seeking to enhance their business or lives. Erect, positive, confident and engaged demeanor and posture goes a long way in making lasting relationships. Go for it!!

Rita Rocker, International author, speaker, consultant, Transformation Academy, LLC

Unleashing the Powerful Phoenix Within Your – Rise!

Greek mythology has a very important story that most of us can relate to at one time or another in our lives. Something devastating happened to a creature called Phoenix (a powerful bird) that destroyed it and burned it to ashes. We can often compare such a tragedy to something that has happened (or is currently happening) to us and see the Phoenix as a representation of our own life. Know that there is a new beginning, that no matter how bad (hot) things may get, you will get back up on your feet and once again rise from the ashes. Allow this to be a time for your strength to increase. Make it a permanent mindset that a Phoenix always rises from its own ashes. Let this be your new mantra: you can, and will, always pick yourself up when you are down, broken, used and abused or just plain worn out! Let this picture be absorbed into your mind! Feel Power! See Victory!

While you are allowing your life, mind and body (the physical, mental and emotional you) to rebuild, know that it is okay—actually a very good thing—to back away (avoid negative encounters, words and harsh treatment), in a sense and for a time, so your wings can be strengthened, grow bigger and stronger and take flight. Allow yourself the opportunity to heal from wounds to your mind, body and soul—from the once devastated Phoenix you may have been that possibly crashed and burned…temporarily. Never feel guilty—ever!! Is it time for restoration from a wounded body or spirit? Take refuge under your Creator’s wings. Let His breath sustain you as you rise again so you can then, with a renewed spirit, burst forth with unapologetic passion and strength. Rise Phoenix and soar to new heights. Look back at the picture again. Feel your strength rising!

As legend goes…when the Phoenix rises from the flames to the life it was originally created for, it is so much more powerful than it was before!

(from Rita’s book “Create Your Destiny: Power Steps for Mind-Body Renewal”)

10 Tips to Becoming a Super Presenter

Need to speak to 5, 50 or 500 people? It is said that most people would rather get a root canal than speak in front of a group. Aarrgghh! With adequate preparation and practice videos from your smart phone or laptop, you can create presentations that make people want to come back for more! We will be covering more tips over the next few weeks. For starters…  

  1. Begin your preparation early.

Start developing your talk sooner, not later. Your thoughts often evolve over time so you will likely want to edit and “tweak” before you go live. The more time you have to prepare, the more confident you’ll be…the more you can watch yourself and have a close confidante also watch (go ahead and send them a short video clip). This also helps not leaning hard on notes or PowerPoint slides.

  1. Research your audience.

Find out everything you can about WHO you will be speaking to. What do your audience members have in common? What are the challenges they face? What is their education level? The more answers you have to who they are, what they are all about and what their need/pain is, the more you’ll be able create a presentation that they will want to hear. The shorter the allotted time, the more “meat” and less “fluff” is critical.

  1. Don’t worry about being original.

When you speak passionately, from your heart, and believe what you say, it doesn’t matter if you’re the first person or 15th to speak about your particular subject. The originality that you provide is your 1) voice and your 2) passion.If it is not your favorite subject, learn why it is so important to those you will be speaking to!!

  1. Keep it simple.

Smaller, shorter chunks of information are easier for audiences to absorb. Again, it’s the meat of the subject that can be turned into valuable bullet points if the time of your presentation is limited.

  1. Make them an offer.

Offer your audience a solution to a problem, a challenge to how they think or act, or an opportunity to learn something new. Create your Presentation around that offer (“Today I’m going to give you 3 tools to eliminate procrastination from your life forever…”). Wow, I’ll listen to that! The audience is all about WIIFM…What’s In It For Me. It is very important to switch the camera from the “selfie” mode to them!

  1. Create a conversation.

Instead of creating a “Presentation,” develop your talk as a conversation between you and the audience. Quickly determine by their attentiveness, facial expression, body language, etc., if they are engaged. Try to determine ahead of time if they are a group involved in fnances (state the facts ma’am, just the facts) or if they are a happy marketing group wanting great human interest (but definitely applicable) stories and some warmth included. It really makes a difference! Watch and respond!!

  1. Involve the audience.

To create that sense of conversation, interact with your audience if possible. Ask them questions (“How many of you would agree with that?”). Give them things to do (“I want you to write this next fact down…”). Being interactive helps retain engagement.

  1. Listen to yourself.

How your Presentation sounds is much more important than how it reads. Create your Presentation for the ear and make sure your body language is speaking the same language. If you are speaking on a product or program where you provide services or items, remember “Only sell what you would be willing to buy yourself!!!!

  1. Rehearse. Revise. Repeat.

Practice your Presentation as much as possible, revise it continuously so that it’s just the perfect Presentation for YOU to deliver.Years ago I noticed excessive eye blinking on camera. Smart phones and laptops are great for eliminating those signals before you are upfront.

  1. Have fun!

Keep the process of creating your Presentation simple and light. If you make the process fun, your Presentation will reflect that. Remember all of the outtakes (bloopers) that you sometimes get to watch after a movie? Well, that’s what practice and rehearsals are for. Go for it!

Contact me if you would like private or group coaching on presentations. Rock it!!

Stay tuned for more tips on reading your audience and what a confident demeanor can do for you! Rita Rocker www.transformationacademy.com

Creating Your Destiny Through Trials

(part 1) Change can be daunting and many will stay in the state they are accustomed to instead of yielding to the process of change. We want to soar but are afraid to get off the ground, so we hang on to the vine where it feels secure (although so uncomfortable and restricting) instead of pushing out and flying up where we belong. When we allow God, He will lovingly put all the pieces together so the newly created you can come forth. Let’s get started.

            I know all too well what can happen when life kicks us hard, over and over again, having grown up from an early age of five believing I was of little to no value. That mindset as a little girl (my emotional storage unit) steered my life in a very defeated direction. After all, why would dad take mom and I to the doctor when I was really sick because he was not about to miss going out of town to a horse race? “Take her on the bus. I’m busy.” In my little mind, horses were of so much greater value than my life and health. So mom took me, very sick, on the bus. That experience, although not as emotionally painful as many have experienced, planted a seed of worthlessness deep inside of me along with a large helping of fear of rejection and failure. Those two clinging fears caused me to sabotage just about everything I did for the majority of life.

Later, my spirit and well-being were torn by two domestic violence marriages filled with fear and destruction, being occasionally homeless and needing to start over, losing my son for many years, getting caught up in drugs and alcohol to numb the pain and try to escape reality for the moment. Then in recent years, experience the trials of eight surgeries in two years including brain and jawbone tumors, a shunt and titanium implant in my head to attach a bone-anchored hearing device as Meniere’s disease stole my hearing on one side and left me with balance and severe nausea issues. Then two back surgeries two months apart under the rods and screws, a ruptured colon, and another long-term broken relationship. Why would I think I was smart, worthy of good things and good friends, or the ability to grow into an international author and speaker and former Mrs. America contestant? However, my heart was, is, and always will be to educate, inspire and guide others to a life of freedom to be their awesome selves. To encourage them to go after their heart’s desires and not be “stuck” where they may have been…or are currently. To provide others with new life and career development tools to help them reach their full potential. DETERMINE TO USE YOUR TRIALS TO HELP OTHERS GET THROUGH THEIRS! It gives you such a sense of freedom and joy as you see others set free as well!

Stay tuned for more steps from Creating Your Destiny: Power Steps for Mind – Body

Creating Your Destiny – A New Start

We design new life by the images we visualize and the words we speak and accept…and will not accept! By what we desire that is good versus what we may have currently in the natural realm that may not be favorable or beneficial (but too frightening to let go of)

As you continue reading the upcoming blogs, are you feeling like nothing is happening in your quest to change or improve your life? Are you feeling stagnant or stuck? Are you frustrated saying, “I have been committed to taking steps every day to progress forward, to reach my goal and to fulfill my destiny, but nothing seems to be making any difference”? Positive change must begin in your mind, mentally shifting your thoughts to what you want no matter what you are actually experiencing at the moment. Is that easy? Not usually. Is it necessary? Absolutely!

So what happens when we need a new start? How do we actually get through the amazing transformation our Creator has for us, going from that caterpillar to becoming the soaring, strong butterfly? You are definitely not alone in the unpleasant struggle. A metamorphosis is defined here in a couple of valid ways:

1) A striking change in appearance, character or circumstances…usually by supernatural means.

2) a change of the form or nature of a thing or person into a completely different one.” Wow!

            Are you feeling like you’re in a cocoon and wanting to burst out, gain new strength and momentum, try new things and reach your destiny? I know how that feels!!

Let’s do it! The transformation from a caterpillar into a butterfly is quite amazing and hard to believe that it’s even possible! This applies to you just as much as the little creatures trying to “get the heck out of Dodge”. We envy the exploring, energetic “butterflies” around us while wondering why we seem to be stuck in the cocoon, the confining chrysalis. Change comes when we realize we have fought long and hard, strengthened our arms (wings) through the battle to finally gain the power to start letting our wings crack that tough membrane (current state in life), expend the energy necessary (for what should be, not more of what “is”), lose our old identity, friends, other relationships, negative experiences and hit it full on! As a caterpillar is broken down into a fluid state containing all the components necessary to mold a soaring, majestic creature, it stays the course through the breaking down and then lets the rebuilding process begin. If you feel like you have broken down, know that you are now on your way UP! The result is a majestic creature…You! Was it easy? NO! But it is worth it! Continue building your magnificent new wings!

Stay tuned for more steps from Creating Your Destiny: Power Steps for Mind – Body