Rita’s Column

Women’s Miracle Conference for Unstoppable Women of All Ages!!

Find Your Own VoiceJoin International Author, Speaker & Consultant Rita Rocker with Transformation Academy, and other dynamic presenters for this life-transforming half-day conference to ignite your power, passion and purpose! This event will positively impact you in many areas of your personal and professional life. Learn powerful lessons for Triumphing Above and Beyond Life’s Challenges and then receive exceptional Techniques for Organizing Your Life that you can begin using immediately to jump start 2017! 

More? Yes! Participate in fashion and makeover fun followed by learning exciting steps in How to Put the Miracles You Are Seeking Into Motion. Sit back and enjoy an international singer. Leave with career empowering steps in professional image, business etiquette and communications skills that will equip you in how to Brand Yourself for Success!

Mark your calendar for Saturday, November 19, 2016 from 8:30am – 12:30pm at Bellevue University’s Symposium Room. CLICK HERE to register, get all details, and enjoy refreshments, prize drawings, networking and be overloaded with positive memories! 

Need more information? Call Joy Marshall at 402-614-5558 or click for more information on Transformation Academy. Pre-register by November 16th for only $20 (thereafter the registration fee is $30).  You will leave empowered, motivated, and equipped with tips and techniques that will last a lifetime!

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Making the choice to rise higher!

Find Your Own VoiceThere comes a time in life when you walk away from all the drama and the people who create it; surround yourself with people who make you a better person; forget the bad and focus on the good. You are the books you read (include the Word of God), the movies you watch, the music you listen to, the people you spend time with, the conversations you engage in.

Choose wisely what you feed your mind. Love the people who treat your right. Pray for those who don’t. Life is too short. Create a life that feels good on the inside, not one that just looks good on the outside. Falling down is a part of life; getting back up is living!! (author unknown).

When we fall, we rise again if we just take our Father’s hand.

Focus on what you CAN be!

Affirmation: A flower does not think of competing against the flower next to it. It just blooms! Today I make a list of all of my abilities, accomplishments and qualities. These are what I will nourish and see them grow strong!

Who isn’t delighted by a gorgeous rose, a beautiful symbol of love, romance, and life itself? It didn’t start out that way though. Nature’s storms pelt the little seed in similar fashion to what we experience in life. However, the turbulent moments in life are where roots grow deep and the seed starts to take the shape of a lovely flower IF, as the gardener, you nourish your seed (life) properly. In spite of the thorns (trials of life), the transformation has brought you from a tightly closed bud to a magnificent bloom.

When shopping for the flowers, you look at the photographs on the seed packages. They do not show you a picture of what the seeds look like in their current state, as dark, tiny, ugly seeds that do not showcase their true beauty and potential. The package shows the magnificent end result. Given the right nutrients and care, it will blossom into a vibrant and delightful creation. Likewise, when you look in the mirror, never see yourself as inferior, unlovely or defective–but as you truly are–a child of God’s magnificence! Allow the seed inside you to grow, and only focus on the lovely picture of what you can become!

Rita Rocker

Broken Crayons Still Color!!

No matter the current difficulty, with God’s hand in yours, you still have the power to

  • redesign

  • regroup &

  • make an awesome impact

in your life and in this world!

After having six surgeries (two on back and four on head) plus other painful medical procedures in six months, I speak from experience. #5 was a 7-hour complicated and serious brain surgery. I may have been broken for a while but it’s time to sharpen the crayon of life and get going!!

You can begin again. Get excited and get going! 

Rita Rocker

Be a Weeble. Get Up!

If you fall seven times…stand up eight! When I get knocked down in life, getting up and moving forward is my choice and I’m taking it!

Be a Weeble doll, the ones with the rounded bottoms that always bounced back up when they were pushed down. Just like those Weebles, you may fall over but you cannot fall flat!! You can conquer your fears and be a powerful woman if you trust God and continue taking positive steps each day, even if it is just one little change or addition to what you normally do.

  • Imagine yourself doing what you love even though you have no idea how you will achieve your goal.
  • See yourself with your new partner, new career, thriving in a new city, several dress sizes smaller, or whatever you heart’s desire is.
  • Smile (you can actually put one on your face even when you don’t feel like it and it will immediately make you feel better. You can tell yourself to smile several times a day, just to practice until it becomes a routine). Get some form of exercise or movement each day, even if it’s only for a few minutes, and enjoy how you feel afterwards. Make an effort to meet new friends/clients. Enjoy more fellowship and at least one hobby. Spend time every day creating the picture of your new life.
  • Be sure you speak in the present tense when you say your affirmations. See it now!

Rita Rocker

 

Mingle With Confidence Using Interaction Zones

Many people are uncomfortable mingling during a networking event.  We are often worried about what people will think of us. The easiest way to get around that is to put your focus on them.  How?  First of all, look for people who appear somewhat lonely, standing by themselves.  They will appreciate you coming up to them asking what brings them to the event, etc.  This helps get conversations going before you walk up to groups of people who might be engaged in a conversation.  It is easier to enter a group when someone leaves and you can enter in comfortably.  These tips will also help:

  • People approach when your back is to light, such as standing in front of a window during the daytime
  • Keep your posture erect, arms and fingers open, with a friendly smile that invites conversation
  • Always hold your beverage in “left” hand to avoid wet and clammy handshake

The concept of interaction zones is used to illustrate individuals’ preferred zones of physical closeness during communication and interactions.  Commonly defined as:

  • Public space:  7 or more feet  (where you want your grocery cart, space between you and the next one in the bathroom stall, an empty seat next to you in the theater)
  • Social:   3-6 feet (you’re part of a group but you don’t have to yell to be heard, you’re part of the inner circle)
  • Personal:    1-2 feet,  for more private conversations, closer interactions
  • Intimate: 0-1 foot (not for business conversations)Remember, the best conversationalists are the ones with the best “listening” skills!
  • Research indicates that group performance is enhanced at closer, face-to-face distances of approximately 18 inches.  However, it’s important to note that this is too close for comfort for some individuals.  Generally speaking, men tend to prefer greater distances in communication than women are comfortable with.

Smile, be open and engaging, ask questions, and be helpful referring others you know who could benefit the one you are speaking with. They will appreciate it and seek you out for a long-lasting relationship.

Mastering the Art of Introductions

Introductions can be confusing so here are some effective tips for greater confidence. If you’re hosting an event or in charge of introducing several people to each other, your goal is to help everyone feel comfortable to continue their conversation once you walk away.  The best approach is to…

  • Use a “conversational starter.”   Example:  “Dr. Johnson, I would like you to meet Sally Smith.  Sally, this is Dr. Ken Johnson, head of the psychiatry department at the Med Center.  Sally has just moved to town from Phoenix.”  Both first and last names have been given as well as one item about each person that the other one can start a conversation with.
  • If introducing a married couple with different last names, you may say,  “Dr. Barbara Taylor and her husband, Brian Jones.”

When introducing two people during business:

Introduce the person with the “least important” title (regardless of gender) to the person with the most important title.  For example: Mr. or Ms. Greater Authority, I would like to introduce you to Mr. or Ms. Lesser Authority.  This usually refers to saying the company president’s name before the sales rep.  When introducing someone to an individual from another company, the one with the “highest position” is actually the guest, or client…even if he/she holds “lower” title.

Introductions should be brief.  “How do you do?” or “Hello” is fine.  If you can’t remember someone’s name, reintroduce yourself and they will often say their name again.  If they don’t, say something like, “We met at last month’s marketing conference at the Embassy Suites.  I apologize but I don’t remember your name.”  They should offer it to you at that point.  If they still don’t, just smile and say, “I apologize but I don’t remember your name.”

The main thing is to lean slightly forward, give a warm handshake, smile and be totally sincere and engaged in getting to know them.